By Bethany on His and Her FI
WARNING: I have been told I do not write softly. Take a deep breath.
Some conversations and interactions are tiresome. Including the age-old one which includes a narrative something like this (a recent conversation I had):
Me: Hmmmm I really want a new pair of flats for work.
Them: Then get them.
Me: I have researched it and the pair I want is spendy. I will wait for the next big sale.
Them: Or you could just make HisFI buy them for you.
Ugh. I will not be “making” HisFI do anything of the sort. I am my own person with my own income. In addition to this, why is the default for anything expensive to have the male partner in your life buy it? The assumptions here are muddled with multiple layers of our patriarchal society.
Don’t believe me? Take it from my Co-Worker Katie. I approached her about this post asking for input on scenarios with money that she felt connected to the same underpinnings of our traditionalist and sexist society.
She quickly responded with a common occurrence that irritates and undermines what she brings to the table…Read More